🛑STOP✋ People Pleasing: It is Safe to be You (Light Language Reiki)

People-pleasing is a penchant to put the needs and opinions of others above our own. There are actually many different things that might cause this behaviour pattern:

Where it is a result of trauma or abuse it is a defence mechanism where we attempt to appease or please the threatening person or situation as a way to protect ourselves. In this form people pleasing is actually fawning, one of the survival responses similar to fight or flight. We use this to avoid further abuse or conflict. Where our first instinct is to diffuse the situation and to appease the angry or unhappy or hurt person. I know I also tend to self-gaslight in situations like this and if it escalates it often leads to self-sabotage or self-harming behaviours.  

People-pleasing can also be because of a low self esteem or where we are afraid of rejection or abandonment.

It might also be a learned behaviour tracing back to our childhood where love and attention were linked to pleasing our parents or parental figures. 

 

Archangel Cassiel, Archangel Muriel, Archangel Raphael and Archangel Jeremiel are here to help bring compassion and healing for the causes of our people pleasing pattern of behaviour. Thank you.

 

They are also bringing compassion and helping us to release:

·         Not being able to say no even when saying yes is detrimental to our physical or mental health and feeling guilty when we do practice self-care or react in a more assertive way.

·         Becoming overdependent on others and emotionally dependent.

·         The deep and constant anxiety and stress we feel and the never-ending pushing of ourselves to be perfect.

·         Losing sight of our authentic self. Often getting confused about our own likes and dislikes; where our likes and dislikes always start to mirror those around us after a while. This behaviour even extends to our emotional reactions; where others influence and define how we feel in different circumstances.

·         Feeling like relationships mean that we have to constantly measure our thoughts, words and actions; where it feels like we are walking on eggshells all of the time.

·         Or where we try to control the decisions of others; where control means emotional safety to us.

·         Always apologising.

·         Only feeling likable if we continue to meet another’s needs.

·         Feeling resentment, because we don’t feel like we have the choice to choose putting ourselves first. Where we experience resentment, because our needs are always overlooked, even by ourselves.

 

Thank you.